Dealing With a Break Up

There must be millions of people around the world who have asked how to get over someone. Unrequited love is a painful thing to feel. When my boyfriend Joey dumped me I never thought I would be happy again. With a bit of time and effort I did find the secret of how to get over someone. I won’t tell you that forgetting the love of my life was easy, in fact it was one of the most difficult things I have ever done. However, if I had of known then what I know now about how to get over someone, the whole process would have been much easier.

No matter how strong and tough you think you are, the first thing you need to do is allow yourself to grieve. You have a right to feel sad about the loss of your relationship. Many people just try to move on straight away, but I have learnt that an important step in how to get over someone is to recognise how much the person meant to you. My problem was that I allowed myself to be miserable for too long. I grieved over Joey for three months, barely leaving the house.

After a few months I started feeling angry. How could Joey leave me? I was so good to him! I didn’t know it yet, but anger is a normal part of the process in how to get over someone. The good thing about anger is that in a weird way it helped me gain clarity. I realized if I stayed at home feeling sorry for myself that things would not get any better.

Although I had thought long and hard about ways to get a guy back, I finally accepted that Joey and I would not be together again. If someone asked me for one piece of advice in how to get over someone, I would tell them to accept the end of the relationship. When you do this you can move on.

Moving on is difficult in itself. I didn’t realize it but I had let myself go a little. I visited to hairdressers, got a manicure and a massage. Although I looked better the more important thing was I felt better. Looking after yourself is important when you are trying to find out how to get over someone. After a break up your self esteem is bound to take a hit.

Once I was feeling better I started going out again. I caught up with old friends and became a lot more active. I made an effort to see my family. Many friends commented on how happy I seemed and how well I was doing. One friend even asked my advice on how to get over someone that had dumped her. I was so surprised that I was the one she asked. Then it hit me, I was over Joey, I had moved on and made a new start for myself.

Finding out how to get over someone is not an easy journey. I hope that reading about my own story will make things a little easier for you. Try and remember that we only become stronger people by going through difficult experiences.

Find out more about Moving on After a Break Up and read about Stages of Dealing With a Break Up