Dealing With a Break Up

Getting over an ex can be one of the hardest things you ever have to do. A year after my girlfriend Lucy left me, I still found myself thinking about her all the time. The pain I felt in my heart was still as strong as the day things ended between us. People kept telling me it would take time, but it just didn’t seem to be getting any easier for me.

After a year of being miserable I decided I needed help getting over an ex. The advice from friends and family members I received didn’t seem to help me. I looked for information online. I even considered going to a counselor. Some of the best information I read was in some ebooks I read. They were priced between $15 and $50 and well worth the money I think.

The first problem I faced in getting over an ex is that I had placed Lucy on a pedestal. Instead of remembering the fights and tough times we had I was focusing on the good things. I was not thinking straight, my memories of Lucy had become inaccurate over time. This sounds awful, but I made a list of the things she did or said during our relationship that had hurt me. This actually helped. An important part of getting over an ex is accepting that things were not always perfect between you.

I realized that if I wanted things to improve in my life I would have to do some work myself. My confidence was low, so I started exercising again. This immediately boosted my mood. I also felt better about my looks because of it. Getting over an ex is easier when you are busy. Now that I felt better about myself, I started going out with friends again.

I learnt to keep my head high. When you are getting over an ex it is normal to be filled with self doubt. I began thinking that nobody would ever love me. I thought that I didn’t deserve love and that was why Lucy had left me. As time passed by I realized that this just wasn’t true.

One rule of getting over an ex I wish I had obeyed earlier is no contact. This means no phone calls, texts or emails between you and your ex. If you are speaking to them all the time it makes it all the more difficult to get over them. It was hard not to take Lucy’s calls, but after a few weeks I felt a lot better.

Once I started going out and meeting girls again my confidence improved some more. I started being able to see that I could have a happy future even without Lucy. Maybe getting over an ex was going to be possible for me. Another year has passed by and I can say that I have a life again.

I have a new girlfriend, although we are taking things pretty slow. I haven’t seen or spoken to Lucy for almost a year, when it comes to getting over an ex I think this is the best way. I still think about her, but I no longer love her the way I used to.

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