Dealing With a Break Up

Dealing with a broken heart is never easy, I learnt that lesson the hard way. When I broke up with Toby I felt like it was the end of the world. I was miserable, my friends and family grew concerned about me. My work was suffering too, my boss noticed that there was something wrong. The best way to describe what I was feeling was despair. I just couldn’t see a light at the end of the tunnel.

I did find the best approach for dealing with a broken  heart. It was a hard journey, whenever I get the chance I like to share my experience with other people in the hope it will help them. Everyone will tell you that only time will heal your wounds. This of course has some truth to it, but I found that I had to change my attitude in order to get my life back and in turn change the way I was feeling.

It’s very easy to get lost in your own sadness. One of the best things you can do for yourself when dealing with a broken heart is to stay positive. This is much easier said than done. They way I made my life more positive was by keeping a gratitude journal. Each night I wrote down some things I was grateful for. Sometimes it was the kindness of a friend, others a sunny afternoon, sometimes something as trivial as a tasty meal. Acknowledging these small things helped me to adapt a more positive attitude.

Perhaps the best thing I did for myself was applying the no contact rule when it came to communicating with Toby. In the beginning we would send each other emails and texts. After a while I realized this contact was not helpful for dealing with a broken heart. They made it harder to forget Toby and get on with my life. One day I decided that there would be zero contact between us. If it was necessary for me to tell him something, I would ask my sister to do it for me.

A great tip for dealing with a broken heart is to keep yourself busy. I took the opportunity to say yes to more invitations. I spent a lot more time with family and friends than usual. It actually became a great opportunity to meet new people. I enrolled in some online courses in photography, an interest of mine I had not pursued in years. When you are busy, you keep your mind of your break up. For me, I also learned how to have my own life again.

Exercise is a great way to keeping yourself feeling good as well as improving your fitness. I started up jogging, I found it great for dealing with a broken heart. When I was jogging I didn’t have to think about my failed relationship. It was great time out just for me. Studies have shown that exercising can reduce your risk for illnesses like depression as well.

As time passed I got better at dealing with a broken heart. My life is now back on track. I’m doing well at work, and have made some new friends. I’m not quite ready to start dating again, but I think I will be soon. Dealing with a broken heart will never be easy, but making an effort to look after yourself and keeping busy can make it a lot easier.

Find out more about Getting Over An Ex and read about Healing a Broken Heart