Dealing With a Break Up

The fallout after a break up can be a difficult thing to work through. When I broke up with Natalie, I felt numb for a while and then just really sad. The hard part for me though was when I had to piece my life back together. We had been dating for so long that I just didn’t know how to function as a single person. Now I want to share with others how I got my life back after a break up.

Natalie and I started dating as teenagers. We went everywhere together. Every single school dance and prom we were a couple, we even went to the same college so we didn’t have to be separated. If I had to make a decision I would ask Natalie, instead of thinking about what I wanted. After a break up I was on my own. Even though I knew it was for the best, even doing every day things became difficult without her.

I gave it time but things didn’t get easier for me. I sat alone at home every night feeling lonely and miserable. Everyone feels this way after a break up, but I couldn’t seem to shake it. I did miss Natalie, but that wasn’t why I was so shaken up. It was because I felt alone.

If I did nothing I knew I would keep feeling this way. So I started researching how to cope after a break up. I bought some ebooks, I didn’t spend a lot, no more than $50 on any of these. I started feeling better straight away because I realized I was not alone.

A lot of people struggle to cope after a break up, not just because they have lost a person, but also what that relationship symbolized. For me, my relationship with Natalie had gone on for so long that I didn’t know how to function without her. We didn’t love each other any more, but we just didn’t know how to get on without the other.

For a long time I had been saying no to most social invitations. After a break up the best thing is to start saying yes. Not only will being busy keep your mind off the break up, but you will start remembering how to function as a normal person again. It had been a long time for me since I had been a single man.

Once I started getting out more things got better. I could see that even after a break up I could have a good life again and be happy. I started changing my attitude, and tried to be more positive about things. When you are down in the dumps it’s easy to be negative, but this will only make you feel worse. When you are a positive person everything about the world seems better.

The best way to get your life back after a break up is to make an effort to live the life you want to have. It may feel like you are forcing it at the start, but after a while it will feel natural. Staying at home feeling sorry for myself only ever made me feel worse, so if you are in the same situation as me, I urge you to go out and start living your life again.

Find out more about Coping with a Break Up and read about Dealing With a Bad Break Up